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How are the Kidlets?

It’s spring break! Hip hip hurray!!!! We’ve had such a great week. We homeschoolers aren’t used to this “getting out of our jammies before 10am” thing. School is brutal to our lazy morning routine! But, slowly and surely we are learning. This week of free play and jammie time has been just what the doctor ordered. Woot!

So, how are the kidlets? You’ve been asking and it blesses my heart that so many people love our kids. I mean, I know they’re pretty fab, but nothing lights me up more than when other people care about my kids. (Doing the dishes for me comes in as a close second, for future reference) I would say the kids are doing pretty great.

My Love

Addy is loving school. I’m not surprised. She’s basically my Mini-Me and I LOVED school, all the way through college I loved it. I loved the friends, the food, the friends…and more time with friends. Addy is a social butterfly, so she really enjoys her time at school. She’s made a couple of little friends and wakes up each day ready to go. She’s still doing gymnastics twice a week and also really enjoys that. Probably her favorite time of the day though, is when all the kids go to bed and she can read with her flashlight. Addy is a total book-lover. She always has been. She doesn’t get as much free-reading time now that she spends her mornings in school, so we let her basically read for as long as she wants at night. She finished the Anne of Green Gables series a couple of weeks back and just informed me that she’s now moved on to Shakespeare. Ha! She reads a version of Shakespeare that has been put more in a story form for kids. Here’s the version, if you’re interested: http://www.amazon.com/Beautiful-Stories-Shakespeare-Edith-Nesbit/dp/1604595752

Handsome schoolboy

Ez Pez. Oh, my Ez Pez. Sweet little boy. School’s a bit harder for Ezra, but he still says he enjoys it. He would prefer to stay home and Lego it up all day, but alas, he’s learning that he does have some responsibilities in this world. 🙂 He always comes home from school excited about his time and eager to tell me all about it. I choose to take that as a good sign. He hasn’t made much progress in the friend department yet, but I think that’s maybe a boy thing. I wouldn’t know, being a girl and all. 😉 He loves his sister and honestly, if he has Addy he is as content as can be. The two of them have their moments, but in general, they are closer than they’ve ever been. They are each others’ best friend- though they would never admit it! Hehe. Ezra is probably the most confident at language out of all the kids and we hear from others that his accent’s not half bad! Sweeeet. He has such a tender heart and I’ve noticed lately that when we share with the kids about Romaniv he really takes it to heart. He thinks about it and it affects him. I’m so proud of him.

Joy!

Big Boy!

Havalah and Seth are doing awesome. They are still so young, they seem to have barely noticed that we don’t live in the US anymore! Kidding…sort of. Seth is getting so big! He’s grown out of his 4T clothes and he won’t be 4 until June. He is so tall!!! He’s talking a ton and his personality is coming out more and more. We celebrated his Adoption Day last week. I was again reminded of how amazingly blessed we are to be his parents. He could not be a better fit in this family. I really can not imagine what our lives would be like if we had said no to the DHS phone call that day in 2010. Havalah remains a teeny tiny firecracker. Oh my word. That girl has got so much personality! She goes about town, leaving swooning Babushkas in her wake. Half of Zhytomyr is in love with Havalah. Ha! She is thriving and is content to spend most of her waking hours playing make-believe with her Playmobils. Hava brings unbelievable joy to our home.

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School has been quite the adventure! I guess that’s the best way to describe it. It’s actually been less of an adjustment than I would have imagined. The kids like to go and are happy when we see them at the end of school time each day. Their teacher doesn’t speak English and communicates with us by note. She’ll write notes in this little book and then I go home and spend the next 45 minutes trying to decipher her handwriting so I can translate the note. Ha! She thinks the kids are doing great and in one note she said to “Please thank the tutor who helps the children with their homework.” Ummmm, what tutor? I wish! This Mommy and Daddy are the tutors around this joint! Homework is a family affair each night as Jed and I bust out our phones to translate the homework assignment. Painful with a capital P.

On March 8th we celebrated International Women’s Day at the school and the kids each had to memorize a poem to recite for all the moms. They were given the poems on Monday to be memorized by Friday!!! Panic ensued as we frantically translated and rehearsed and stumbled and cried. But, by Friday our whole family knew both of the poems and Addy and Ezra rocked it. They did SO AWESOME. I think when I was sitting there listening to them recite their poems I was the most proud of them I have ever been. They are just so stinkin’ brave. Really.

They say they don’t understand what their teacher says, but they are doing well in school, so I think they must understand more than they realize. They still can’t say much at all in Ukrainian. My friend Alexis, who encourages me by email about language (thank you!!!), says that everyone who is learning a new language has a “silent phase”. In that phase, you may not be able to produce spoken language, but you are still learning. I think our whole family is in one big “Silent Phase”. Alexis said she spoke to a man who moved his family to Japan and put his kids in Japanese school. He said it took about 6 months and then they really took off. I’ve heard many language promises that point to that 6-month mark. Oh please Lord, let it be so! 🙂 Addy and Ez write beautifully in Ukrainian and can read, they just don’t know what they’re reading and writing. But, all in good time. Step by step.

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It’s not all lollipops and roses. The kids have their hard days, for sure. They miss their friends and cousins. They miss Grandparents and church and English. On a rare occasion one of them will mention that they wish we could go back to Salem, but it’s not something they dwell on. Even Jed and I have our lonely times when we think how much easier it would seem to just go back, but that’s not every moment. Same with the kids. They are being stretched and challenged for sure. I wish I had someone to talk to who has “been there done that”. I have no idea how to parent through all this transition, and in a second culture. Still, the kids are happy and thriving in so many ways. They are so brave and we trust that God knew what He was doing when He made each of them how He did. They were made for this, just like Jed and me. I’m so proud of them I could burst.

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In fact, I’m so proud I just have to show them off a bit. Here’s some video lovin’ for your enjoyment. Thanks so much all of you who love my babies and pray for them. It means the world to us!!

And just for fun, here are Hava’s outtakes. Enjoy the silliness!

kimnjed March 27, 2014 2

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Let Go, Revisited

On January 8th, in the dawn of the New Year, I wrote a post about my theme for 2014: “Let Go”. At that time it was something the Lord was softly whispering to me, and as I thought about it more I realized that it was something that really needed to begin to happen in my life. I began to realize how much of my life I hold on to every day, and because of that, how much less I am holding on to Jesus.

I sit here now, chuckling to myself about what God really had in store for me in the “Letting Go” realm. Chuckling as in, if I don’t laugh I’ll cry, sorta chuckle. Annnnnd it’s only March. Ha!

Much of the letting go in that post was concerning the need for me to let go as a mother.

“Before they were our babies, they were His. My kids belong to God. Forget what our culture says is required for a happy childhood. What does God say my kids need? What does God say is important for a child? Those are things to focus on and invest in. If my kids have all the happiness in the world, but their hearts are far from the Lord, what have they gained?”

Little did I know when I wrote that post, that a month later Addy and Ezra would be attending our local Ukrainian school. Never in a million years would I have predicted it. Before we moved and people asked about what we would do for school I answered them that we weren’t sure, but definitely they wouldn’t be in a local public school. Oy. Yeah, what do I know??

Addy and Ez have been in school for a month now. That act of “letting go” has been one of the hardest undertakings in my life. I know they don’t understand much of what is said during the day at school. I know at times they are nervous. Making friends has been difficult because they can’t speak more than a couple of words to the other kids. I so want them to be happy. I don’t want them to be lonely. They say they like school, but I wonder, deep down, are their little hearts okay?

Let go. We are being obedient to the Lord. Their happiness is not reliant on me. God will give them all that they need. He created them KNOWING this would be their life. Addy and Ezra, Havalah, and Seth were each called to Ukraine, just as Jed and I were. So what if the American culture says they need lots and lots of friends and activities to be happy? They have each other as friends. They have a Mommy and Daddy that love them.

Let go.

Little did I know when I wrote that post about letting go, that 2 months later Ukraine would be at the brink of full-on war. With Russian troops moving further and further inland, no one knows what will happen next.

What does it mean to truly LET GO when face to face with war?

I have no idea, but I’m learning every day. We never could have anticipated that God would call us to this. But, He did. He knew full well what was going to happen in Ukraine a week after we arrived. He told us to come, to love on His children who have been hidden away for far too long. We came without a Plan B. Ukraine is our home now. Ukraine is God’s plan for our family.

What does it mean to lay it all down for the sake of Jesus? What does it mean to be ALL IN, and to really mean it? What does it mean to say YES, without conditions? It means the same thing now as it meant to us when we came here. Only now we better make sure we really believe it. Is our Yes truly without conditions? We are here in Ukraine until God tells us not to be here anymore.

Because of the political situation here, many people have been asking us when we will come home. Many have asked us if we have a red line, like “If such and such happens, then we will leave.” We have no line. All we have is the voice of the Lord, just as we did when we flew out of Portland on November 12th. We are watching the news; we are not seeking out danger, but whoever said God will always steer us clear of danger?

Let go.

I know we have our children to think of, and believe me, there is no one that wants our kids to be safe more than Jed and I do. But more than parents who try to keep them safe, what our kids truly need is parents who will listen to the voice of the Lord and follow Him no matter what- letting go of all else, and clinging with all they’ve got to the hand of Jesus.

Our friends here in Ukraine have no exit plan. Our boys at Romaniv have no exit plan. What of the countless others who lay in their cribs day after day, completely unaware of their homeland’s turmoil? They have no choice, no option of leaving their crib, let alone their country.

So here we stand and here we stay. We continually ask the Lord for wisdom. At the same time, we continually ask Him to help us let go of ourselves, in order that we might hold more tightly to Him.

Please listen to my heart. It’s not that we are trying to call ourselves some sort of hero or attempting to be foolishly brave. The Ukrainian people are the ones who are brave. The heroes are the Ukrainians who live for Jesus despite the injustice that has surrounded them all their lives. We are simply reminded that a life of obedience does not always equal a life of physical safety. The Ukrainian people need the hope of Jesus more than ever right now. With a new government being formed, there is new hope for the children we have come to serve. We believe with all of our hearts that we are here in Ukraine for such a time as this. If you’ve followed our story at all you know that we didn’t arrive here by accident. 🙂 God made the way and He has a purpose in it.

When we very first started on this journey, way back in 2010, God gave us some verses. They have been my comfort more times than I can count. It had been quite a while since I looked them up, and today I wept as I read them again. Just knowing that God knew all about this way back then is such a comfort. He does see. He does know.

“Enlarge the place of your tent, stretch your tent curtains wide, do not hold back; lengthen your cords, strengthen your stakes.

For you will spread out to the right and to the left; your descendants will dispossess nations and settle in their desolate cities…

‘Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,’ says the Lord who has compassion on you…

All your sons will be taught by the Lord, and great will be your children’s peace, In righteousness you will be established: tyranny will be far from you; you will have nothing to fear.”

Isaiah 54:2, 3, 10, 13-14

Let go with me, will you? He promises to be more than enough. I intend to trust that.

kimnjed March 10, 2014 9

LanguageSchoolThe Kids

The First Week

We’re nearly done with our first week of Ukrainian public school. Whew! We made it!

All in all I would say the week has gone well. It’s a pretty huge life adjustment for our family, so it’s definitely going to take some time to adapt, but really, so far so good. I guess I couldn’t have asked for it to go any better. The kids are happy and they love it. The teacher is kind and made a point today of having an English teacher meet me in the classroom when I dropped the off the kids just so she could have a translator to help her find out if the kids are happy and okay. The fact that she cares and wanted to check in made me so happy and relieved.

The process of getting them in to the school has been pretty easy, but also pretty interesting. Yesterday I went to the Ministry of Education office with the school’s Assistant Director and an English teacher to get the kids registered with the region. Then today I had to fill out another application thingy to go to the Director of the school, plus I filled out an info sheet for their teacher. My Cyrillic writing probably looks like a kindergartner’s…so I hope they could read everything okay. 🙂 We had to give the school notarized copies of their passports and vaccination records. Unfortunately our vaccination records are all in English, but fortunately, with the combo of the school nurse and me + a friend helping to translate + sign language of diseases + common brand names of vaccines we were able to figure out if they had all the required vaccines. Apparently our kids are waaaaay more vaccinated than Ukrainian kids, so the nurse said they were A-OK. Haha! All they need to be fully registered is TB tests.

Here is their school schedule, in case you’re curious:

Every day their class walks down the street to the school building where the older kids study and they eat a free meal in the cafeteria. It’s no big surprise that that’s my kids’ favorite part of the day. 🙂 They usually eat at like 9:30, but the meals are like full on lunch/dinner foods. The first day they had salami, corn, and pasta; another day they had meatballs and rice; yesterday they had fish and potatoes, and then today they had some kind of porridge and meat. Tea with milk is served every day with the meal. There’s a little counter in the cafeteria where kids can buy treats with their own money. Addy and Ez said that usually a few kids will buy snacks and share them with all the other kids during breaks. So, today they made sure to pack some grivna in their backpacks so they could get in on the treat time. 🙂

The kids wear uniforms, boys in suit jackets and slacks, girls in black dresses or skirts. The Director said we don’t need to worry about uniforms yet…but he didn’t say when to buy them…I guess someone will tell me when it’s time. All the kids wear snow boots to school, and then when they arrive they change in to slippers to wear in their classroom.

Addy and Ezra tell us that the kids are really kind to them, and they’re learning some of their names. They say they don’t understand much at all of what their teacher says and I’m not sure the best way to help them with that. Will it just come in time, or is there something we should be doing at home to help them? Jed and I are studying Russian, but the kids’ school is all in Ukrainian. Oy. I have no idea what we need to be doing to assist them…I’ve never done this before and don’t know anyone else who has. Anybody have any ideas? This is uncharted territory for our family, and honestly is pretty overwhelming. I know, I know, one step at a time. I wish we were all learning the same language. Jed and I debated for a long time before we moved here on if we should learn Russian or Ukrainian. We really felt like we should focus on Russian. Pray for us, would you? We just need a lot of wisdom in this situation, and we all need loads of supernatural language abilities. Thank you!

Thank you everyone for all your prayers and encouragement as the kids started school. On one hand, this is so exciting because it really plants us here in Zhitomir even more. We are learning more about the culture and everyday life for the Ukrainian people. We’re dropping off and picking up along with loads of other parents and interacting with a lot of people who are super curious about why we are here. There are many opportunities for Jesus’ name to be made great.

On the other hand, I feel like I’m in a bit of a mourning phase. Having our kids always together has been our way. It’s all we know as a family. Homeschooling them has been a MAJOR focus of my time and energy for the past four years. Addy and Ezra being gone during the day EVERY DAY is huge. It changes everything and I just need an extra dose of peace during this time. I’m missing them like crazy and often during the day I wonder if this is the right thing to do. We’re asking Addy and Ezra to do something very, very difficult and I wonder about their little hearts. Are they scared? Are they confused? But, then they come home happy and I know we can make it another day. I guess this is just a “yes” that is pretty hard for me right now. Praise God they are loving it a lot and I know He is super close to them while they are away.

Do you have any questions about school? Ask away! It’s a pretty fascinating thing to be up close and personal with a situation so foreign to us. I still can’t believe this is my life. Ha! So cool.

kimnjed February 6, 2014 10

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A School Story

Big news folks. My sweet Addy and Ezra are starting school on Monday. Hold me.

How did this come about? Wanna know? Okay, I’ll tell you. 🙂

During Christmas time my friend Tanya told me about a gymnastics class at our neighborhood public school. The daughter of one of her family members attends the class and she knew we were on the lookout for some sort of activity for our kids where they could hear language and interact with other kids, so she asked if we were interested. Sure! Natasha, the mom of the girl attending, asked the coach if some crazy Americans could try out her class and she said yes! So we did.

Oh the hilarity that ensued. Seriously, to be a fly on the wall. It is VERY entertaining. I think Tanya and I laughed nonstop during the first class. Picture a very old gym with bare walls, barred windows, and dirty mats. Picture flexible Ukrainian kids flipping and cartwheeling and doing the splits and the bridge like they were birthed onto a balance beam. Then picture the Johnson children (minus Seth) entering with all their clumsiness and lack of coordination (I’ll take all the genetic responsibility for that); not understanding a lick of the language, not able to cartwheel, but doing their very darndest to follow along. Then picture the coach calling out orders in loud Russian. It’s like a three-ring circus I tell ya.

Believe it or not, the kids LOVED gymnastics class and continued to attend all during the school’s Christmas break. Technically the class is only for the students of that particular school and is free for them. But, the coach likes our kids (she is so kind) and said she would ask the Director of the school if he would allow them to continue in gymnastics once school was back in session. She even said Hava could stay in class, even though she’s technically too young. 🙂

We were in Switzerland getting our visas when Tanya emailed to let us know that the director had agreed to the kids continuing gymnastics! Woohoo! He had also asked why they don’t attend school. Everyone had been telling us that the schools wouldn’t accept our kids because they don’t speak but a few words of Ukrainian and Russian. As far as we know, our kids are the only foreigners around, so the schools are not at all set up to work with non-native speakers. The director said that was no problem and that he wanted to talk with Jed and me when we got home from Switzerland.

A couple days after we got home from the visa trip we went to the director’s office for a chat. He doesn’t speak any English, so the school English teacher translated. He asked us the ages of the kids and where we live. He asked if we plan to be in Ukraine for a long time or just short term and if the kids are vaccinated. Then he got on the phone and talked about the situation to a higher-up at the Ministry of Education. At the end of the meeting, he told us the kids are welcome to attend his school if we want!

We are a homeschooling family to the core. We love homeschooling. Addy went to kindergarten at a Christian school in Oregon where my mom teaches, and Ez went to one year of preschool there, but otherwise, they’ve only been taught at home. Homeschooling has just become a way of life for us and we have never thought we would do anything different. If you’re curious why we homeschool I can talk about that in another post. I LOVE to talk all things homeschool, so don’t be shy! All that said, things got a bit tricky once we got to Ukraine. Our kids’ brains are wired for language learning right now. Everyone says “Your kids will learn the language so fast! You won’t believe it!” That’s probably true, but how can it happen if they are home all day? They certainly aren’t going to learn it quickly from me! Ha! We put them in gymnastics, and they attend Awanas, and Sunday School, all in Russian and Ukrainian. They have picked up quite a bit, but it’s slow. They need to be immersed in the language while their brains are in this forming stage. I wish I had that opportunity! We don’t really know of an option for a tutor who can teach them as many hours as they need here at home, so we were at a bit of a loss. We were asking the Lord what to do to help our kids with the language. We considered checking out the two local, Ukrainian Christian schools in town, thinking maybe they would have the ability to be more flexible with us, but they are both pretty far from our house. Then this school fell into our laps.

On Thursday Jed and I went back to the school to check out the classroom they would be in and meet the teacher. We asked the Lord to guide us and give us peace if this was the way to go. What can I say? It was great. We decided to give it a go. The school is about a 5-minute walk from our house. Addy and Ez get to be in the same class, and school only goes from 8:30-noon. Totally doable! The director wants to put them in first grade because they need to learn to read and write in Ukrainian, and those students are still learning those skills. Most of the students in the class will be 7, so Addy and Ez will be older than them, but we aren’t worried about that. The main goal here is language acquisition, and having them with kids younger than themselves will probably help take away some of the social pressures that would distract them from learning. Plus, first graders get to do more fun stuff 🙂

The thought right now is that they will attend school from 8:30-noon, and then come home to continue plugging along in their normal homeschool work. We’ll only focus on the basics when they get home, like English and math, since I know their brains will probably be a bit fried when they get home from school. Their school is taught in Ukrainian and their teacher speaks no English. This school also specializes in Polish, so they’ll be studying Polish three times a week. Oh my…this should be an adventure!

Our Teacher

This is the plan that seems most peaceful right now. We’ll finish out this school year and then re-evaluate for the fall. I most definitely don’t want to abandon homeschooling, since the reasons why we school at home haven’t changed. I guess we’ll take it a year at a time and see what God says.

So, Monday is the big day! School books have been purchased and the kids are excited to go. I’m excited for them…but also quite nervous for them. I’m so extremely thankful they get to be in the same class. Praise God for His kindness. He opened this door when we weren’t even looking and totally paved the way. We are praying that this leads to divine relationships and open doors in our neighborhood. We are excited to see how God plans to use this for His glory.

If you would pray for us on Monday morning (Sunday night in the US) we would appreciate it so much!!! I’ll let you know how it goes!

kimnjed February 2, 2014 4

FamilyThe KidsThis Ukrainian Life

On Cousin-Fetching and Toddler Bribery

This weekend was full.

Full of fun, full of laughs, full of food, and full of lessons learned the hard way. Hence all the laughter.

My cousin Hannah came to stay for the weekend! She arrived on Friday afternoon and we were so excited it was like Christmas Eve on Thursday night. Our first real visitor from afar! Hannah has been in Western Ukraine doing an internship through her University back in Oregon. She arrived in Ukraine in September and will leave in December, so this weekend was our chance to experience Ukraine together. We had a BLAST.

Jed was at Romaniv orphanage with MTU on Friday, so it was up to me to fetch Hannah from the bus and get her back to our house…with all the kids in tow. It might have been a tad intimidating, but I was feelin’ good, feelin’ confident. I could do this!

When our family travels from Kiev to Zhitomir we take a certain bus that randomly picks up at a metro stop in Kiev and stops really close to our house in Zhitomir. Well, Hannah wasn’t taking that bus. She arrived in Kiev via train, so she was going to catch a bus leaving from the official bus station in Kiev. I asked a friend where that bus would drop her and he was pretty sure it would take her straight to the big bus station in Zhitomir.

The kids and I left early so that we could easily navigate the local buses to get to the big bus station. I knew that I knew where I was going, so it was all good. I prepped the kids (listen to Mommy, stay close to Mommy, pay attention to what’s happening around you…blah blah blah) and they were doing great! We arrived at the bus station plenty early; we even had time to get a little bread treat at a bakery next door (which was surprisingly filled with meat…not a bad thing, unless you’re hoping for sweet. Hehe) All was well…or so I thought. 🙂

After about 45 minutes I got a phone call from Hannah:

“I’m here! Where are you guys?”

“Oh, we’re inside. We’ll come right out! Hmmmm I don’t see you…where are you? Maybe stand underneath one of the bus stall numbers so we can find each other that way.”

“Okay, I’m standing under number 7.”

“Ummmm…me too. Oh geeeeeeeez.”

Oops. Hahahaha! We were at the wrong bus station! Apparently, the Kiev bus station sometimes delivers to the OTHER bus station in Zhitomir. Wa waaaaah. No big deal, except I totally didn’t know how to get from one station to the other. So, I told Hannah to stay put, and in good faith, told her we would find her. 😉

I called Jed, who happened to be with locals who also spoke English and everyone was trying to give me directions…it wasn’t happening. So, I got all brave and started asking directions in broken Russian. And, wonder of wonders, miracle of miracles, we made it! We found Hannah!!!

It was quite the triumphant moment. Hannah and I were squealing with joy, everyone around was laughing at us, the kids were jumping up and down…it was a sight to behold, I’m sure. 🙂

At that point, I was feeling pretty proud of myself. Look at me, all travel-savvy! Errrrr…not quite.

So, I thought I knew the way home from the second bus station, but once we started walking, the street I thought I needed was a one-way. Looking back, we probably should have just returned the way we came, but I think I was too overcome with joy at seeing Hannah to think rationally.

We started walking, and walking, and walking, looking for a familiar landmark. Oy. Struggle. Soon we were quite lost. Ha! The kids were being quite the little troopers until Seth decided he was done walking. He started doing that limp-noodle thing until I was basically dragging him down the sidewalk. If any of you know Seth in real life you know he’s a big boy. He’s no lightweight. Hannah and I had already taken turns carrying him and Hava quite a bit, and at that point, he just really needed to walk. But he wouldn’t. He sat down on the sidewalk and started screaming his lungs out. I didn’t know what to do, so I did the “Okay, Mommy’s leaving..bye bye…” thing (which rarely works with Hava and NEVER works with Seth. He calls my bluff every time) and Seth continued to park it and scream, much to the amusement of everyone passing by. Again, quite the sight to behold, I’m sure.

Enter the Babushkas.

Two little old ladies walked up to Seth and started rattling off in Russian. I’m not sure what they were saying, but they were apparently trying to convince him to stand up. They were tugging at him, pulling at him, talking and talking and talking to him as I stood back laughing way too hard to be considered a good parent. Seth was not havin’ it. He only started screaming louder and louder. “Who are these people?? What are they saying? What have I gotten myself into???” Then one of the Babushkas started digging around in her bag and pulled out a piece of candy. She offered it to Seth- in exchange for him standing up…which worked. OF COURSE! Seth grabbed that candy, stood right on up, wiped his tears, and marched over to Mommy, “I eat my candy now???” OMG.

Hannah and I were dying. We were laughing so hard. Only NOT in the US would a total stranger walk up to your screaming toddler on the street and bribe him with candy. It was amazing. In that moment I was so stinkin’ thankful for that Babushka! She saved my life. 😉 I told Seth he couldn’t eat his candy till he walked all the way to the bus. Oh yeah, I got some mileage out of that bribe. You better believe it! Oh, I love Ukraine.

Eventually, we found a bus number I recognized, made it home, and settled into a cozy weekend of fun with our Hannah.

Stay tuned for the rest of our weekend adventures!

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kimnjed November 25, 2013 2

The KidsThe Move

On Bravery

My kids have a strange phobia of escalators.

When presented with an escalator their eyes grow huge, they back away slowly…hanging on to Mommy for dear life. They would choose an elevator over an escalator any day.

These kids- the same ones who will happily take on Space Mountain and California Screamin’ with a smile on their faces are totally, illogically scared out of their minds when it comes to escalators.

That would be fine and I wouldn’t care at all, except the teeny weeny fact that we’re moving to Ukraine next month. Ummmm have you seen how you get down to the subway in Ukraine???

Ummm…yeah…our little fear of escalators just isn’t gonna cut it.

So, today we practiced!

We faced our fears

We helped each other when they were afraid

And we conquered!

We are so brave!!!

Bam! Take that escalator!

Brace yourself, Kiev Metro. We’re comin’ for ya.

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kimnjed October 17, 2013 1

The KidsThe MoveYes

The Necessary.

We’re really alive! Finger still intact, though angry as can be when required to type, hence the lack of posts. It turns out pointer fingers are super useful. I’ll definitely appreciate mine more in the future.

Although I haven’t been able to type it out, my brain has been spinning a mile a minute since we landed back on US soil. The trip was so good. When people ask the question “How was your trip?” I say “Good, and necessary.” It was oh so necessary, in ways we couldn’t have anticipated before going. I thought it would be necessary in the scheme of houses, visas, and job descriptions, and while all those things were discussed and worked on, they aren’t the necessary I’m talking about. This trip was another leg in the Journey of Learning to Say Yes.

Kiev was great. Super fun, great connections, awesome time with old friends- going deeper and getting stronger. Kiev was comfy, cozy, and superb.

Zhitomir was good too…and Zhitomir was reality. Necessary reality.

We LOVE Mission to Ukraine (MTU). We love the staff, we love the vision, we love the people being served. We are more excited than ever to join them in their ministry. Jed could be busy there 24/7. His professional skills are so right on for the areas they have need. My heart was bursting to think of how I get to help and how our kids get to be involved and learn to serve. We are totally and completely more excited than ever for MTU. YAY!

Honestly though, I struggled in Zhitomir. Nothing personal to the city or the people, I was struggling with doubt, fear, worry as we walked the streets of Zhitomir, and it was all personal to me.

“What are we doing??? This is crazy.”

“Our lives are PERFECT right now and we’re leaving it all for the unknown. Why???”

“We’re taking our kids away from their cousins, their friends, their church. They’re going to hate us!”

And on, and on, and on. Being the verbal processor that I am, Jed got quite the earful. THIS was the necessary of this trip I wasn’t expecting. I had to come around to the fact that although our life right now is the absolute best it’s ever been, the biggest reason for that is because we are smack dab in the will of God. Yes, there will be challenges about moving to Ukraine. No, it will not be easy. Yes, there are some major sacrifices, but it will be the best because we will be smack dab in the will of our Loving Father. After I got over myself and the lies, fear, doubt, blah blah blah, I could truly enjoy our time in Zhitomir.

Look how far The Lord has brought us! Oh my, the joy in the journey really increases when you die to yourself a bit more. Ha!

Today my kids and their friend Milaey decided to pick various herbs and plants from the yard and set up a stand on the porch to sell to passerby’s. Great idea, except for the fact that we live on an extremely quiet, out of the way street. People don’t just meander down our street for the fun of it. It’s almost like a ghost town, except for us. 🙂 I didn’t want to discourage them, so I just warned them it might be a bit hard to get customers, but they were welcome to try!

They set to work gathering, pricing, making signs. Soon they were out on the corner yelling to the empty street about their wares. “We’ve got carrots, we’ve got herbs, we’ve got stuff to make your house smell good!” They chanted over and over, then cheered like crazy when a random car would drive by every 7 minutes or so.

After a bit they came in, discouraged at the lack of business. Then Milaey suggested they pray and ask God to bring them a customer. I certainly didn’t have the faith I should have had (hehe), but was so proud of Milaey for suggesting it! They prayed, and I kid you not, like 5 minutes later a car stopped at the sale! A random lady got out and said “I never drive on this street, but I thought I’d try a shortcut today.” Seriously??? The kids were FREAKING OUT. They hovered, they talked up their goods, and the kindest lady in town walked away with a ziplock baggie full of hedge trimmings. God is so faithful. He cares about what’s important to us.

I got to talk with the kids about the goodness of God, they were thankful, elated, and back to sign-holding and chanting. Guess what? Not one other car stopped the rest of the day. Addy and Ezra came inside an hour later crying (sobbing) about their “failure sale”.

“Why did no one come? It was important to us and no one cared!”

How quickly they forgot the Lord’s provision. How quickly they forgot the joy in the answered prayer, the delight in His care for them. He provided a miraculous customer right when they asked!

Yep, that was me in Zhitomir. Totally forgetting what God did earlier. Totally feeling forgotten, wondering if God cared. Seriously????? He’s done AMAZING things. He’s gone above and beyond for our family to pave the way and make it straight. Seriously. Once I got my head and heart on straight, stopped looking at the “yikes” and looking at all He has done and promises TO DO things got a whoooooooole lot better.

Lesson learned for me, and the kids.

Next post will be more details about our time in Zhitomir. Many of you have been asking and I’m sooooo sorry for the delay. I blame it on my immersion blender skills (or lack thereof).

kimnjed June 6, 2013 1

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Readying the Troops

Preparing to move overseas is quite the task. It’s such a big task that we really have no idea how to tackle it. Day by day, we just do the next thing that is in front of us- praying that when moving day comes along we’ll be as ready as can be. I’m not necessarily talking about packing and all that (although I have no idea what I’m doing in that area either), more about preparing our hearts and minds for how our lives are going to change.

When we very first started this process some very wise missionaries told us to do whatever we could to prepare our hearts and lives while we are still here in the US. “Get your marriage right, work on those selfish areas in your heart, help prepare your kids’ hearts”. Basically we were encouraged to do whatever we can do NOW while we are in a familiar situation and we have a great church and tons of friends and family around who love us. Because although we will still have loads of rough edges to smooth off when we get to Ukraine, it’s in our best interest to allow the Lord to do some of the smoothing ahead of time. Lord knows things will get a lot rougher in some areas once we get there! Ha!

Lately I’ve been thinking more about how to prepare our kids for this major life change. I want to be intentional about preparations with them, because otherwise I know it simply won’t happen. I know myself. 🙂 Like back in February when we first spoke at a church to share the vision, we were on our way to the church and I finally thought to look back at the kids and ask them if they understood what we were doing that day. Addy understood, but Havalah and Ezra were unsure (Seth was just along for the snacks- as usual). It was in that moment that I realized that although they are absorbing a lot just by living in the same house and hearing conversations, we must intentionally talk with them all through this process so their little hearts aren’t left behind.

Here are some things we have started doing to help our kiddos along this journey. I’m writing them down partially to keep myself accountable, and partially to encourage other parents to be intentional with your kiddos. We can’t assume our kids will learn what we want them to know about faith and their walk with Jesus by osmosis. We have to have intentional conversations. I am sure a work in progress in this area, so I don’t claim to be an expert of any kind! But, you never know who needs to be reminded of that truth. So here ya go!

Language Study
I started including Addy, Ezra, and Havalah in my language study. Duh. That should have been a no-brainer, but I honestly was waiting to find the perfect “kid” language curriculum for them. Instead I finally realized that I started at square one and they can just join me where I’m at! Some knowledge of the language is better than none at all. We study Monday-Friday for maybe 25 minutes or so, and then I let them go play while I do a bit more. THEY LOVE IT. They are such smarties too! Addy has an awesome memory and Ezra has a great ear for the language. It’s funny the words that stick out to them. I’m not sure how helpful it will be to know “cockroach” and “frog” in Russian, but they’ve got those ones down perfectly! 🙂

We use Transparent Russian for our language study. We bought it many months ago and chose Russian over Ukrainian because the part of the country we ultimately would love to end up in is mostly Russian-speaking, and our tutor we had hired was a native Russian speaker. Now I wonder if we made the right decision, but ah well. I think either one is a great start. The complete program isn’t available in Ukrainian anyway, so it is what it is. 🙂

Transparent has grammar study, audio helps, and an awesome vocab-building tool called “Byki”. Byki is the only part I use with the kids. We study our computer flashcards and play little games with the words we’ve learned. They are seeing the words, hearing the words, and saying the words. It seems like the language study has given them more ownership in this process and I love that more than anything.

Sharing
We’ve been lining up speaking engagements at different churches and small groups and have been wondering how to involve our kids more in that process. Yesterday we had a great answer to prayer in that area! The kids and I were invited to share about Ukraine at chapel for a local Christian school where my mom is a teacher. It is missions week for the school, so every day they are learning about different countries and the work being done there. We opened up the week by sharing about Ukraine. Addy and Ez helped me prepare the lesson and even shared part of it with the kids! I was so very proud of them!!!

Ezra and Havalah…ha!

Addy talked about where Ukraine is located, what kind of foods are popular there, what the homes are like, and showed pictures of the capital and important monuments.

Ezra talked about language learning, showed a picture of the Cyrillic alphabet and talked about the sound differences and shared some words he’s learned.

Havalah had planned to show her nesting doll, but got nervous…I pretty much knew that would happen! Ha! I could see how proud they were to share about Ukraine and it made my heart glad. I think this was a big leap toward them taking ownership of this mission. We were very thankful for the opportunity to share with other children!

Prayer and Discussion
Ever since we first learned about the need in Ukraine we have included the kids in prayer for the people of Ukraine.

There have been seasons when we have been more faithful in that than others, but over all it’s been a constant in our family prayers. The kids have certain orphans they pray for super faithfully, and most of those children have been, or are being adopted!

That has been a great faith-builder for them! Now I see we need to start expanding our prayer time with them to include the caregivers, other believers in Ukraine, and the people we’re going to meet and grow to love there. I want to start praying with them that God will provide them with friends they can love and enjoy life with. Addy and Ez are particularly nervous that they “won’t have any friends”. I know it’s not God’s heart for them- so it’s time to start praying and believing that He will provide friends.

Sometimes I get nervous and think “What are we doing? Are we ruining our kids’ lives by taking them away from friends and family??” But then I think back to all the words God has spoken to our family along this process. This move is something He has called our whole family to- not just Jed and me. Life in Ukraine is something He is preparing for our whole family. When our loving Father created Adelina, Ezra, Havalah, and Seth He knew what life He was creating them for. He knows how this will grow them and make them into the men and women He has designed them to be. When I was pregnant with Addy a word was spoken that “This baby will be a bridge to people who don’t know Jesus”. I am so excited to watch God fulfill that through Addy. I can’t wait to watch each of our kids blossom and come even more alive as we walk into the destiny God has created for every.single.one. of us.

kimnjed March 12, 2013 5

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Alive and WELL!

We’re alive and very, very well.
The silence around here has been deafening! That’s about to change. 🙂 We’ve been without internet for the past couple of weeks and so much has happened I could probably talk your ear off for a good hour or so. But…I won’t. I’ll just give you the highlights.

1 We moved! All of our worldly possessions have been moved to the home of our very gracious and generous friend Luke. Luke is letting us live with him for free so we can save up and pay off debt before we relocate all of our worldly possessions across the world. What a guy! Seriously, what.a.guy.

So much life lived in this house! Memories upon memories…

First breakfast in our new digs

2. Some of our dearest friends spent all of last Saturday helping us prep our old house for renters. The house looks goooood. It’s amazing the repairs and things you let slide when it’s just your family living there. OMG. The painting, the blackberry-bush-destroying, the cleaning, the hauling, the dump-running. It was a massive amount of work and we are humbled by our friends’ selfless giving of their time and energy. Tom, Emma, Chris, Sarah, Sam, Ang, Joe, Dad, Mom- we owe you, BIG TIME. Thank you!!!!

3. We have renters!!!! It doesn’t do much good to move out of your house to save money if you don’t have anyone else to pay the bill. Good thing God had that covered beyond what we could have imagined. On Monday a family signed a 5 year lease.

(cue Hallelujah Chorus)

A FIVE-YEAR LEASE!!! We were hoping for at least a 2-year lease, but a 5-year lease is almost unheard of. That means we’ll have time to get to Ukraine and really settle in before we have to think about our house. Praise God for his provision. It’s almost laughable, really.

One day a few weeks ago Jed was driving and praying. He was concerned about what would happen to our house. He felt like God said, “You will not worry about the house.” As in, “Don’t worry I’ve got it”, and also as in, “You are not allowed to worry about this.” Ummm okay God. You were right, again. I’m so glad He’s the one in charge.

Seth amusing himself while Mommy cleans the empty house

4. I would be remiss not to mention one more thing. The matinee showing of “Cinderella Swamp Princess” was most definitely a recent highlight. I highly recommend you catch the show if it’s playing in your area. Contact Addy for the tour schedule. 😉

The costumes are killer.

That’s what’s been up with us! God continues to meet us every step along our journey. He also keeps blowing our minds with His goodness. Now we wait on Him to show us the next steps. I’m pretty sure we don’t need to worry about it. He seems to have it all covered. 😉

View from our new living room…ridiculous.

kimnjed October 26, 2012 15

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What’s Next + The Kids

At the very beginning of this journey when we still thought this journey was about adopting “Jonah” a friend was praying for us and God spoke some words to her that have guided a lot of our process thus far. This was at the stage in the game when no one knew what we were considering. It was just between God, Jed, and me. We believe that God can speak through His people, and boy has this word struck the nail right on the head! She said “God’s calling you and Jed to something very difficult. Fear not, fear not, fear not. The path looks really narrow, but just keep walking. As you walk the path is going to widen and God will make a way. Just keep walking and fear not.”

Of course we thought those words applied to the adoption process and raising a child with special needs. We had no idea what those words really meant. Now we’re starting to get an idea. 🙂

Back at the beginning of September, we knew that we needed to trust God to provide free housing for us. We can’t pay off student loans in any decent amount of time if we’re still paying our mortgage. Why don’t we rent out our house and let someone else pay our mortgage? Then we can live somewhere for free and put money toward student loans so we are more free when we get to Ukraine! Great idea…except that finding free housing for a family of 6 sounded a little tricky. Yeah, we learned it’s not that tricky for God.

We asked the Lord to let us know where we were going to be living before our garage sale. I was starting to get a lot nervous as the garage sale quickly approached and we had nowhere to move. Yet we knew we were to keep walking and God would make a way. The night before our garage sale a friend came over to help Jed move the heavy items downstairs for the sale. I was gone at a home school meeting and when I got home and our friend left Jed turned to me and said “He just offered for us to live with him in his house for free.”

HOLD THE PHONE. WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?????

God made a way! He did it! He kept His word. He did a miracle. He moved our friend’s heart and that generous friend is opening his home to 6 people. I don’t think our friend realizes what he just agreed to. Hehe. Holy bachelor pad invasion Batman!

We are just absolutely blown away by the goodness of God. We are blown away by His promise-keeping. We are blown away by His way-making. We are so very thankful.

In a couple of weeks, we’ll move out of this house and into our new digs. Then we’ll spend the rest of the month getting this house rent-ready. Please pray for a great renter for our house! Thanks!

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“So, how are the kids with all of this?”

The kids are awesome, as usual.

Taking Queen Havalah on a tour of the neighborhood

They are taking all of this in like champs. The kids know we are moving to Ukraine. Of course, they have no idea what that really means!

They know where Ukraine is on the map and they’ve seen many pictures. They join in on Skype with our friends in Ukraine, so they’ll meet some familiar faces when we finally arrive there. They know we are going to Ukraine to help the special kids who have no mommy and daddy. They know that those kids have bodies that work differently than theirs and look different than theirs. I think they understand as much as they can at this point, and they are excited.

What we’ve learned about our kids so far in this process is that however Jed and I present this to them, and however we process it is how they live it. We are taking this in like the big fat adventure that it is. So, the kids think of it like an adventure. We are excited, they are excited. We have some fears and uncertainties- so do they. We just pray that God will give the kiddos peace through this process. We pray they learn in a very tangible way what it means to walk in faith. We want them to live radically for God- then we better live it!

Thank you again and again for all your prayers and support.

God is opening doors and clearing paths!

We stand amazed.

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