|Grandpa and Grandma|
|Grandma and her babes|
|Grandpa, Grandma, and Uncle Gary|
Like I said before, we visited Grandma the week before she died. She had been pretty sick with pneumonia and had just come back to the nursing home after being hospitalized. The kids and I went, I prepared them that Grandma might not know them, that she might just be sleeping. Boy were we surprised to see her up out of bed in her chair! It was a sweet visit. I didn’t know at the moment that it would be our last time to chat. The day after our visit Grandma declined and didn’t really talk with anyone else again. I am so blessed that we were able to see her that day. It was truly a gift from the Lord. And, we took pictures!!! Yay!
|Addy and Grandma Betty|
|Ezra and Grandma Betty|
|Havalah, Mommy, and Grandma. Seth was being a stinker and wouldn’t come in the picture 🙂|
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”
I love that verse because it shows the Father’s heart for the orphan, the vulnerable. I’m ashamed to say that for many years I neglected to heed the second vulnerable group addressed in this verse: the widow. Last fall God really got me in the guts on that. “If you want to truly follow Me, don’t just heed the commands that are convenient for you.” Oh, oops. He got me there. I hadn’t been visiting Grandma regularly and I felt a nudging (or a shoving) to make that more of a priority. I want to teach my kids that the elderly are important and are to be honored. I wanted them to see me take time out of my schedule to drive down and see Grandma. No more using the excuse that it’s hard to visit a nursing home with 4 little ones. Well, it is hard, but I bet it’s a lot harder to sit in a nursing home day after day and not have your babies visit you. So, we started visiting more often. I made it a goal to see Grandma once a month and I am SO glad I did. We made some sweet memories and my kids got to know Grandma Betty in their own way. I wish so badly I had starting visiting her earlier, but I don’t get a do-over. I wish I had talked with her more about her earlier life and her dreams. I wish I had known her better as her own person. I know she loved me and I know she knew that I loved her, but I wish I would have put that love into action more often.
I guess what I want to say is, if you have a loved one who is growing old, go visit. Make the time. We all have time to give, we just have to choose to give it. I treasure those visits with Grandma and I know she treasured them just as much, probably even more. When we visited it made her day.
I love you Grandma. I’ll miss your face and your birthday songs on the phone. You’ve got two of your babies and Grandpa and Neil to love on now. I can see you now dancing with Jesus- no more wheelchair, no more arthritis, no more lost memories. You are well, you are whole. Can’t wait to see you again 🙂